Thankfulness and appreciation in marriage ….

There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread. Mother Teresa

Being willing to express appreciation to another person could be one of the greatest assets to a relationship. The relationship could be a momentary one - such as the clerk in a store - or a long-term one, your marriage or other family members.

Two complaints that we often hear in marriage counseling are:
1. From the husband: she doesn't appreciate how hard I work to provide for the family.
2. From the wife: he doesn't appreciate how much I do at home or with the kids.

A very simple solution to this distress is to thank each other! Yes, you thank your spouse for working hard to support the family (the husband or the wife). You thank your spouse for what they do at home or with the kids (the husband or the wife). A thank you goes a long way towards building congeniality, civility, and intimacy in a marriage. 

When speaking of what the life of a Christian should exhibit, Paul said, Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. (Ephesians 5:4) 

You may think, “well she is just doing her job, what she is supposed to be doing. I shouldn't have to thank her for that.,” or “he could be doing more, he should be helping more, why would I thank him for that?”

You thank a person for what he did to show that you know that he did it and that you are glad that he did it - no matter how small or how large the action. 

Suppose you are at a meeting and drop your pen on the floor, a stranger sitting nearby picks it up and hands it to you. What do you do? You thank him, even though the gesture was small and you don’t know the person. 

How much more important to thank a spouse for any positive behavior, regardless of the size or responsibility!

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