Her husband, who was with her ….

Where was Adam when Eve was tempted by the serpent? 

When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. Genesis 3:6

The first couple had some time of living the dream - walking with God in a perfect environment (the garden), with perfect weather, perfect bodies (perfect health), and all the time in the world to enjoy each other (no kids yet!). 

But the serpent knew the way into their lives. He tempted them with lies about God and themselves. 

“Them” - yes, it was them. Many have the mistaken belief that the discourse was between Satan and Eve only. The Bible is clear that Adam was there with her. 

What did Adam say when Satan was tempting Eve with his lies? 


What was his God-given role? Does he have instructions from God on how to be a husband or how to lead his family? 

We don’t see either of those instructions at this point in the Bible. But what we do know that God created Adam first. He gave Adam the command to not eat from the tree of good and evil. He gave Adam His Presence and a personal knowledge of His goodness. 

Adam was silent. He could have interceded and told the serpent to go away. He might have countered the lies of the enemy with the truth of God. He had the choice to stop Eve when she picked the fruit. He could have refused to eat the fruit himself after she ate. Adam was silent and passively followed Eve’s lead into sin.

The legacy of Adam for many men is silence and passivity. The legacy of sin finds its way into the life of a wife as she often controls the temperature of the marriage and becomes overwhelming emotionally to her husband. 

The legacy in marriage is continued in the next post: Relationship Status: It's Complicated .